Adoption is definitely an emotional roller coaster and yesterday I was feeling every minute of it! Meeting our son for the first time was so special for us and one of those moments I will cherish for the rest of my life, but we knew that he did not understand. He was confused about who these people were and why we were there. He warmed up to us by the end of the visit but there was no real attachment.
However, today he recognized us as he walked into the room! He ran right over to grab a handful of Cheerios! We were in a larger room that serves as a special playroom for families and the children. We were able to spread out and really play with him.
He really enjoys the touch and feel books! One of the books that we brought had a mirror in it and his reaction to seeing himself was so funny. We colored, played with cars, and with the puzzles that we had brought.
He is very inquisitive and loved exploring and seeing how things worked. He loved looking out the window to see what was going on outside. We brought a small train with us that made noise and went around a small track. He LOVED it! He was looking it all over to figured out how it works and had so much fun pushing the buttons over and over.
He spent a lot of time climbing back and forth from one of our laps to the other. We both got a chance to hold him and I think both of us cherished having him lay his heads on our shoulders and just relax.
We asked to go and see where he slept and so the teachers invited us into the nursery and we were able to see his play room as well as the room where he sleeps. It was sobering for us because while his physical needs are being met, it is by no means a loving, nurturing home. As one of the teachers said, "while he has no wants here, he does not have parents and that is what he needs--the love of a mother and father."
As we were getting ready to leave, our translator asked him if he was ready to go back. And he very clearly said no and wrapped his arm around my neck. Josh carried him back into his classroom and he stayed in Josh's arms for about five minutes not ready to go. We are grateful for the beginning signs of attachment and understanding that we are safe.
Thank you for all of your prayers! We love you all.
Josh and Courtney
However, today he recognized us as he walked into the room! He ran right over to grab a handful of Cheerios! We were in a larger room that serves as a special playroom for families and the children. We were able to spread out and really play with him.
He really enjoys the touch and feel books! One of the books that we brought had a mirror in it and his reaction to seeing himself was so funny. We colored, played with cars, and with the puzzles that we had brought.
He is very inquisitive and loved exploring and seeing how things worked. He loved looking out the window to see what was going on outside. We brought a small train with us that made noise and went around a small track. He LOVED it! He was looking it all over to figured out how it works and had so much fun pushing the buttons over and over.
He spent a lot of time climbing back and forth from one of our laps to the other. We both got a chance to hold him and I think both of us cherished having him lay his heads on our shoulders and just relax.
We asked to go and see where he slept and so the teachers invited us into the nursery and we were able to see his play room as well as the room where he sleeps. It was sobering for us because while his physical needs are being met, it is by no means a loving, nurturing home. As one of the teachers said, "while he has no wants here, he does not have parents and that is what he needs--the love of a mother and father."
As we were getting ready to leave, our translator asked him if he was ready to go back. And he very clearly said no and wrapped his arm around my neck. Josh carried him back into his classroom and he stayed in Josh's arms for about five minutes not ready to go. We are grateful for the beginning signs of attachment and understanding that we are safe.
Thank you for all of your prayers! We love you all.
Josh and Courtney
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